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"DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever" (eg6) 02/11/2019 at 15:42 • Filed to: None

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Do things actually get better? People always say that, and ever since I attempted suicide a few years ago, I’ve honestly tried my best to make my life better, but it all seems futile. Like the fact I’m still alive is some kind of a mistake.

Don’t worry , I’m not close to attempting suicide again, and I’ve started seeing a therapist, but it just all seems useless like I can’t just be a regular goddamn person like everyone else.

Dru > DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever 02/11/2019 at 15:50

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I apologize, but I’m not familiar with your situation specifically. Please fill me in if you have time. I have gone through what you’re going through more times than I cared to. Though I never acted on those feelings, they kept coming back. Failed relationships, professinoal failures, etc. Does it get better? Yeah, it definitely does. And the fact that you’re seeing a therapist is a good first step. Or whichever number step it might be, its a good one. Meaning and fulfillment in life are derived from what you use to fill it. My wife and my child are a huge part of that. After my daughter was born, everything just made sense. Of course I’ve had several down and out moments in her short time on this earth. But I can’t give up. Nor can you. Finding things to look forward to really helps as well. E.g., Minis on the Dragon with my brother and dad in May. Family vacation this summer. For some reason those little notes on a calendar help me think big picture.

bob and john > DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever 02/11/2019 at 15:51

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the trick with letting things get better is that you HAVE to let yourself have the little wins.

an ex of mine pointed it out to me. you cant just focus on the big stuff.

little things. your car is consistantly clean. you didnt screw up the laundry this time. all the clothes are folded. You slowly come to realize that a lot of problems are made worse when you dont have everything else sort of together.

I know when I was in college and living alone that when i had my room a mess, I felt lethargic, out of it, didnt want to talk to anyone, just like a pile of shit. it was a crappy time. cleaning and having somewhere to start your thoughts helps. As does accepting the little victories which a lot of people (my self included) have a hard time doing. 

Montalvo > DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever 02/11/2019 at 15:54

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Define regular. Everyone goes through things differently and what works for so me doesn’t work for others. Some people are also better at hiding things than others . The best anyone can do is surround yourself with genuinely good people and make the best of the time we do have. If you feel stagnant then try something new. Maybe you can find something that lights the spark to change that feeling .

CB > DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever 02/11/2019 at 16:12

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As someone who works with a lot of people, regular is a strange metric to go by. Just aim to be the best dude you can. From what I’ve seen, you’re a good guy.

And it does get better, but it requires work. A lot of work. It’s not look books or movies that once the protagonist beats the villain, the credits roll and everything is great, you’ve got to maintain it. I’ve had varying degrees of  issues for years, and sometimes I have the same questions. But I look at what I’ve done, where I am, and see that I’m a person who matters to others, who does some pretty good things, and at the end of the day, I manage to have some fun along the way.

Having a schedule helps. Exercise and diet help. And having stability helps on the rough days. You can do it, just take it one day at a time. As Pete said, start with the little things and go from there. And if you need anything, I’m usually around.

davesaddiction @ opposite-lock.com > DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever 02/11/2019 at 16:13

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It’s not futile, and it’s no mistake. And screw “regular”. Regular is lame.

What do you love to do the most? When do you feel the happiest? What things in your life give you joy? What people in your life do you care most about, and make you feel good when you’re around them? Pursue these, if necessary, at the expense of the rest, especially if “the rest” makes you feel like your best efforts are futile.

Clearly, we all have parts of our lives that aren’t enjoyable, and make us feel like a hamster on a treadmill (like sitting through a slow day at my desk at work, like sticking with finishing your degree), but that’s just a part. Focus on the good stuff, and if there’s not enough good stuff, go make more of that in your life. If it feels like there’s no time, adjust things so there is.

More people than you know care for and are rooting for you. Take care of yourself.

My bird IS the word > DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever 02/11/2019 at 16:49

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Life only gets better if you make it better. But yeah, it does.

gin-san - shitpost specialist > DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever 02/11/2019 at 18:09

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I’ve been dealing with depression since high school, and I think I’ve passed the point where I’ve been depressed for over half of my life.

You get a lot of advice about eating right, exercise, etc. And I’m sure it works for some but to me it is bullshit. I’ve gone through periods of regular exercise with a good diet and yet I was still sad as fuck.

I took a different approach and decided to own my depression. It sounds strange but it’s the only way I’ve been able to manage it. I do what I like and gives me pleasure I try to make sure I see friends when I can and I give myself alone time whenever I need it. I always feel the dark cloud above my head but have come to accept that life, as a whole, is largely pointless, so I may as well try to find whatever enjoyment I can. Just because I have some sort of misery inside doesn’t mean I can’t have fun at all or that I have to make others feel the way I do.

That’s not to say that you shouldn’t take care of yourself, but I hate the fact that people throw around exercise and diet is some sort of magic cure-all for depression. It can help you feel good physically but it did absolutely fuck all in changing my mental processes.

My depression isn't gone and I still have to deal with really bad lows, but is life better than 15 years ago? Yeah, I find it's easier to deal with as an adult with a greater perspective and more life experience. You have a therapist to find a way of thinking that works for you, so please do that since my way is probably a really fucked up way to deal with depression.

nermal > DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever 02/11/2019 at 18:27

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It’s less a matter of shit getting better, and more about YOU getting better.

Dr. Zoidberg - RIP Oppo > DC3 LS, Fuck Hyundai, now and forever 02/11/2019 at 19:21

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I’m glad you’re seeing a therapist. I would like to speak for myself and many others in my own life: so, so, so many of us have gone to those dark places. So many feel lost, and alone. And consequently , they don’t feel like no one could possibly understand how they feel, since we bottle that in. I know that this idea probably doesn't offer any help, but I personally have never met one "regular" person. And yet we all want to be...